After seeing so many narcissists in life and having purposeful interaction and encounters with them; if any single quality of narcissists, especially female narcissists, that fascinates me deeply, it is their inherent seducing and ravishing behavior. This is very obvious and evident even during your first encounter with a narcissist. The every motion and gesture of her body are seducing and enticing in nature, leading slowly to ravishment of the target. Saying nothing from their tongue, they are sending you messages through [sly] seduction. It is difficult to interpret if they display such gestures purposefully or not. The seductress narcissist may bare her breast unconsciously for your gaze to see her breast pretending as if she is itching there. While sitting with you at a coffee table in a restaurant, she may bump your foot and simultaneously say sorry for that. She may catch hold of your fingers in the pretext of seeing your hand lines and making some future prediction about you. Nowadays palmistry is a common stratagem to attract people. I can recount endless such gestures here, but my aim here is not making a catalog of the gestures, rather, it is studying the process of covert seduction.
Some seductresses have a god-given sweet tongue. None can surpass a seductress in “sweetness and politeness of tongue” as they talk in a very low sweet voice with a tinge of innocence. You are enticed by her majesty and modesty of talking. When such a seductress is talking with you in a maiden meeting her facial expression and movement of her eyes and lips are to be noted. There is some “depth and meaning” in her looks, too. It seems as if her searching looks are finding something in you which you are not aware. She may purposefully or unconsciously suck her lips as if she is chewing something. Her whole body language is sending a secret message to you for decoding. Her body language is simply amazing. Suppose you are successful in reading the language of her secret messages and body language - then there is every possibility that she may thwart your advance. [Playing innocent and hard-to-get - contradicting her easy-to-get subliminal messages.] It is another hysterical trait to attract and seduce more - to the prolonged extreme - until your total submission and surrender.
Mother earth is the primordial archetype that gets expressed in women in various patterns of maternal behaviors such as: dedication, upbringing of children, a caring and protecting attitude, sympathy and empathy.
There is no place for loving and caring in another archetype of women. The exact opposite of mother earth also exists in women that is of evilness, seduction, and of a woman sucking the blood of her own children and killing them to gratify her eternal hunger. Here she is the model of cruelty, tyranny, wickedness and wildness. This type of archetype is also beautifully expressed in mythology. In Hindu traditions, this archetype of women has been designated as “Maya” and has been allegorized with a female serpent that eats her own offspring.
The word seduction has wide ramifications. In modern times, it has been fixed to or reduced to sexual seduction or exploitation. Seduction is the attitude of the person, or the mental process, in which the subject deliberately or unconsciously tries to entice a person to go astray from duty and rectitude (to corrupt; to persuade or induce you to engage in [loose] sexual behavior). The moral defenses of the victim are shattered while facing such behavior, which is really fascinating and stunning too! The word seduction has been derived from Latin and its literal meaning is “to lead astray”.
By studying and analyzing wiles and stratagem of historical seductresses, we find some commonness in the execution of their Art of Love to ravish their victims. But there is no force or assault in this ravishment. Many subtypes of seductress archetypes may be found. All the prototypes of seductresses display the traits of enticing, alluring, AND elusiveness.
The archetype of “trickster” is embedded and intermingled with the seductress archetype. It is the trickster archetype hidden in their psyche that makes their behavior maneuvering and manipulative. Some cases of seductresses constitute high intellectual faculties. These women are of high caliber and high profile, occupying highly lucrative posts. They inherently know how to twist the course of events in their favor. Sexiness, youthfulness, beauty, and charm are the main wiles used by them to seduce for sex [or power].
Another stratagem used by all seductresses is a dissolution of their ego temporarily. It is this that makes them seem more attracting and seducing in nature. (In various web pages) “grandiosity and ego inflation” has been depicted as a hallmark of a narcissist woman. In Punjabi culture, there is a popular colloquial word for seduction that is “momo tthagni”. Its meaning is: to ravish or plunder someone by becoming wax. The solid wax of their inner candle - the candle of Ego - starts melting on seizing upon their target. I see it as another cunningness hidden in their behavior. It is, in fact, her preparation to further ambush your person. It is the process of the melting of her ego, together with her love making art, that compels the victim to come more and more near, and begin to have emotional togetherness and connectedness.
Once this togetherness or connectedness is established, the true colors of the seductive narcissist starts coming out. What was perceived as most charming and beautiful is turned into cruelty, tyranny and ugliness in subsequent encounters. This elusiveness of [congruous] behavior is the secret of their seduction. They are “mirage women” for their victims. Now all their exaggerated emotionality and sensuousness turns into “sourness and bitterness”. This sourness and bitterness was always inside of them, but was hidden from your purview.
Actually, what we call casting of spells is nothing but stupefaction of our senses, and stupidity and ignorance of our minds temporarily under the spell of our own selfishness. For a moment, we become so overwhelmed by our sex drive that our nervous system and thinking system is shut off temporarily and is paralyzed [for easy conquest by the seductress].
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