My 3 brothers and I grew up with my father (and his endless line of female companions who knew nothing about each other). When I was very small, he was my whole world. When I became a teenager, my dad turned obnoxious and treated me like a burdensome roommate.
My oldest brother, Anthony, was the first scapegoat. He was given different rules from the rest of the siblings. He was the only one (as a teenager) who had to pay my dad rent.
When Anthony got sick of the abuse and left home, I became the scapegoat. We had been the only ones who could see the truth and speak up. One day, my father exclaimed to me, "You are TOO truthful." I guess I had revealed one of his scams.
My younger brother, Dan, a self-aware Narcissist, was (is) the golden child. He will always defend my father's neglectful and hurtful style of parenting. Dan has gone so far as telling us that "all parents do that." He has two daughters with a psychopath, so his kids must think so, too.
My youngest brother, Massawa, is a genetic psychopath, and well, he just is what he is, (and he analyzes it sometimes). Although I have not been on the receiving end myself, I heard that other family members were done wrong by him.
I can't stop loving my family. But because of our long history of generational birth defects (psychopathy), the majority of my family members are no good for me.